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ASSERTIVENESS . WHAT IS IT? HOW CAN IT HELP ME? WHAT DO I NEED TO DO?. ASSERTIVENESS. Assertiveness is the ability to communicate your needs, feelings, opinions, and beliefs in an open and honest manner without violating the rights of others. ASSERTIVENESS.
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ASSERTIVENESS WHAT IS IT? HOW CAN IT HELP ME? WHAT DO I NEED TO DO?
ASSERTIVENESS • Assertiveness is the ability to communicate your needs, feelings, opinions, and beliefs in an open and honest manner without violating the rights of others
ASSERTIVENESS • IS NOT THE SAME AS AGGRESSIVE BEHAVIOR. • AGGRESSIVE BEHAVIOR ENHANCES SELF AT THE EXPENSE OF OTHERS. • ASSERTIVENESS PRODUCES POSITIVE OUTCOMES FOR ALL; AGGRESSIVE ACTS RESULT IN NEGATIVE OUTCOMES.
WHAT WILL IT DO • HELPS YOU BECOME SELF-CONFIDENT • INCREASES SELF-ESTEEM • GAIN RESPECT OF OTHERS • IMPROVE COMMUNICATION SKILLS • IMPROVE DECISION-MAKING ABILITY
HOW TO BE ASSERTIVE • BE HONEST AND DIRECT ABOUT YOUR FEELINGS, NEEDS, BELIEFS. • EXPRESS YOURSELF FIRMLY AND DIRECTLY TO SPECIFIC INDIVIDUALS. • BE REASONABLE IN YOUR REQUESTS
HOW TO BE ASSERTIVE • STATE YOUR VIEWPOINT WITHOUT BEING HESITANT OR APOLOGETIC. • BE HONEST WHEN GIVING OR RECEIVING FEEDBACK. • LEARN TO SAY “NO” TO UNREASONABLE EXPECTATIONS. • PARAPHRASE WHAT OTHERS HAVE STATED TO YOU.
HOW TO BE ASSERTIVE • REGOGNIZE AND RESPECT THE RIGHTS OF THOSE AROUND YOU. • USE APPROPRIATE TONE OF VOICE. • BE AWARE OF BODY POSTURE/LANGUAGE • MAINTAIN EYE CONTACT. • USE “I” STATEMENTS TO EXPRESS SELF
HOW TO BE ASSERTIVE • DON’T LET OTHERS IMPOSE THEIR VALUES/IDEAS ON YOU • ENCOURAGE OTHERS TO BE CLEAR AND DIRECT • TAKE OWNERSHIP
AND MY RIGHTS ARE… • The right to respect myself because of who I am. • How to lead my life…pursuing goals, dreams, etc. • Have my own values, beliefs, etc. • To tell others how I wish to be treated. • To change my mind and make mistakes without being ridiculed.
AND MY RIGHTS ARE… • TO HAVE POSITIVE, HEALTHY, SATISFYING RELATIONSHIPS IN WHICH I AM SAFE AND RESPECTED. • TO CHANGE AND DEVELOP MY LIFE HOW I DETERMINE. • TO BE HAPPY AND AT PEACE.
ASSERTIVENESS • DOESN’T JUST HAPPEN. • DOES NOT GUARANTEE YOU HAPPINESS OR FAIR TREATMENT. • WILL NOT SOLVE ALL YOUR PROBLEMS • DOES NOT GUARANTEEE YOU WILL GET WHAT YOU WANT.